What it is
Coming home from the hospital is the first time nobody is checking on you every four hours. The car ride is short and oddly scary. The first night home is when the baby, who slept all day, wakes up. Most mothers remember this evening as harder than they expected.
What's typical
The car seat is rear-facing, straps at or below the shoulders, chest clip at armpit level, no puffy coat. Someone sits in the back with the baby. You should not be the driver. After a cesarean most providers say no driving for one to two weeks. At home your bleeding may pick up from the stairs. The baby feeds every two to three hours and may cry more than in the hospital. The pediatrician sees the baby within one to three days.
What's known
The AAP sets the car seat rules and the follow-up timing. Nurses and doulas agree on the first evening: the mother goes to bed by eight, and dinner is already made.
What helps
- Have the car seat checked by a certified technician before the birth.
- Walk in, go straight to bed, and let someone bring you food there.
When to call someone
- Nowbleeding that soaks a pad an hour, trouble breathing, a severe headache, or a baby who is blue, limp, or has a fever. Call 911.
- Todayyou have not peed in six hours, or the baby has not fed in four. If you cannot cope, the National Maternal Mental Health Hotline is 1-833-852-6262.
- At your next visitask what the first week should look like.
Who helps
Tools: Postpartum Prep Checklist · Meal Train · Birthworker Directory
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- Car seat: choosing, installing, getting it checkedGetting Ready for Birth
- The hospital stay: what happens, what to askBirth and the First Days
- The first 24 hoursBirth and the First Days
- Setting up home for postpartumSupport, Home, and Village
- Postpartum bleeding (lochia): what's normal, what's notPostpartum: Your Body
- Visitors and boundariesSupport, Home, and Village
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Sources
- American Academy of Pediatrics — Car seats: information for families
- American Academy of Pediatrics — Hospital stay for healthy term newborn infants policy statement
- NHS — Your newborn baby: the first few days
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