What it is
Body image is how you see and feel about your body. In pregnancy it can swing fast. One week you feel strong and round. The next you don't recognize your body at all. After birth the body is soft, marked, and leaking, and nobody said how long that lasts. Pride and grief can sit side by side.
What's typical
Most women gain 25 to 35 pounds in pregnancy. Skin stretches, breasts change, feet can grow half a size. Around 8 in 10 get stretch marks. After birth the belly stays soft for months. Most of the weight comes off over a year, not six weeks. Studies find body image dips most in the first trimester and in the early months after birth.
What's known
Research links pressure to "bounce back" with lower mood after birth. Mothers with a past eating disorder are more likely to struggle, and ACOG asks providers to check in with them. Many cultures treat a soft postpartum body as a mark of work done, and feed the mother more, not less.
What helps
- Mute the accounts that make you feel worse.
- Buy two or three things that fit now.
- Say what your body did today out loud: grew a lung, fed a baby, got up at 3 a.m.
- Tell your provider if food has become a fight.
When to call someone
- Nowsudden pain, bleeding, or swelling is a different call. Make it.
- Todayyou are skipping meals, purging, or working out through pain to change your shape.
- At your next visitbody feelings pull your mood down most days.
Who helps
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Related
- Weight gain in pregnancyPregnancy: Your Body
- Your body after birth: weight, shape, and timelinesPostpartum: Your Body
- Skin in pregnancy: stretch marks, linea nigra, melasma, itchingPregnancy: Your Body
- Guilt, comparison, and the phonePostpartum: Mind
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Sources
- American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists — Weight gain during pregnancy FAQ
- National Eating Disorders Association — Pregnancy and eating disorders
- NHS — Your body after the birth
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